An Art of Parenting

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While in the period of pregnancy, the mother has to take immense care of herself, always keeping in mind that she is living the life of two. She should be mentally prepared to face the forth coming months and the sufferings that she would have to encounter are all her tribulations to bring a new soul happily to this earth! Apart from the doctor’s medications and advice, it lies solely in the part of the carrying mother to be ready to welcome the little one! Being happy at all times is very essential, as they all do affect the foetus in the womb.

Just listen to light music when something gets you into a troublesome thinking that you feel diffident or not sure of a successful delivery. This little task would make things better. And who knows! May be your son or daughter could become the next greatest musician in the world!

As it is a well-known fact that mothers, even while they are pregnant, should not get angry or panic or turn restless for silly reasons. The greater truth behind this is that, the shocking vibrations that the mother experiences while carrying her baby would be transmitted to the foetus inside and there are chances for the kid that would be born to be hot-tempered, tensed or depressed ones.

Hence it is very vital to maintain calm emotions like smile, happiness as the same would be reflected to the baby. In addition, that is the reason why the doctors often advice the carrying mothers not to bury their desires within their heart. However silly their desire might be, they should fulfill it as the baby might get into the terrific habit of bottling up its feelings.

The delicate duty of parenting is such a beautiful task knitted with love and joy along with lots of care and a pinch of anger. The term ‘pinch of anger’ is to be stressed here because, anger too plays the important part in molding your child’s care. It does not mean that you should always exhibit an angry face to your kid and look like a Hitler!

When the anger should be shown, it must be rightly used to knock out the bad things in your child. For instance, your kid abuses someone else, with some bad words, instead of admiring his talking skill, you ought to show your anger to make him feel that what he has done is wrong and needs correction. In this way, at the right time, the parents should not fail to show their anger to correct their kids.

The modern father will be very responsible and it can be expressed by the care which he takes for his newborn baby. Very few fathers are missing out the happiness of the birth of the children but they should realize that it is the good times of their life and they too should experience the happiness by caring for their growing up child. A lovable father will return to home immediately after finishing his work because he wants to spend most of his time with his child by playing, dancing, jumping and walking with his child because he can feel the enjoyment. From day one, he will begin to satisfy the needs of his child by changing nappies even in the midnight, helping his wife to feed the baby and sing songs to make the baby sleep. It proves that the father is a lovable person as well as a full-time parent which will be beneficial to all the members in the family.

Suppose if a father concentrates on the pregnancy of his wife it can be assured that he has more care on the birth of the baby. By the way he holds his baby, it will show his interest within six weeks from the day of the baby’s birth. Even when the baby cries, he will be the first person to find out the reason for the baby’s crying. At any cause, his attitude will not spoil the motherhood of his wife. His happiness will be expressed by such ways, and particularly in the first few weeks, he will play an important role in the baby’s life. Hence, he is not only modern father but also the best father in the world.

A happy mom communicates her feeling to her baby nestling in her womb through the amniotic fluid. Research is establishing a connection between a mother’s start of mind and that of her baby’s disposition. She has already begun bonding and sharing her life with her baby and they are both comrades in arms – mom and baby. Her happiness hormones create an environment of calm and bliss for the baby to grow in. Your baby’s learning and thinking process begins while she is still in the womb.

There’s an incredible, instinctual, mechanism that’s revved up when a baby and the mother are put together. In a foetus these responses seem primitive, but they are responses all the same. While we may be under the impression that the uterus is a quite cosy little place where peace reigns supreme things could not be further away from the truth. Actually, life in the uterus is noisy and unsetting. Mama’s voice resonated deep within, her organs provide their own cacophony of sounds – gurgling, pumping, and beating. This riotous world acquaints the foetus to sounds, tastes and smells. She is already prepared to face the world outside with a distinct personality of her own.

Imagine being born with the ability to be happy. Yes, it’s possible; there might be those lucky babies who have it in-built into their systems to be happy. This was illustrated by watching two identical twins brought up separately under different environment, displaying the same levels of happiness. Research is increasingly indicating that there is a happiness set-point that each of us is born with.

Modern mothers can be divided into two main categories. The first consists of those who feel that while their children are very young they want to look after themselves and they feel that this activity is the most worthwhile job that they can do. However, even a mother who loves her child dearly will be prepared to admit that looking after small children isn’t easy. A woman who finds herself a mother shortly after leaving a job is unlikely to be well prepared for the demands, not to mention the isolation of being a mother.

Motherhood has its pleasures and fulfillment but it is very tough. It is a twenty-four job and it is rather badly paid. It’s repetitious and tedious; it is extremely demanding and wearing. No mother undervalues what she is doing but society does. Consequently when a young mother, particularly if she has been well trained to do a job, is asked what she is doing and all she can say is that she’s a mother, she feels that the admission classifies her as inferior to women who are holding down a job. It is up to society to take a more realistic view of motherhood than the present rather idealized one.

The other category is the working mother. For some reason the working mother is still a pejorative one in our society. If women aren’t prepared to devote themselves entirely to the upbringing of their children it’s generally felt that they aren’t maternal, that they aren’t selfish and heartless. If we go back to our rural beginnings, we find that mothers were always working mothers. They did an equal amount of work to the father and they shared the work of the family with the father.